Narcissistic abuse is a pervasive pattern of behavior employed by toxic individuals that have presumably had a traumatic childhood event that they have not processed in the conscious mind as adults. These individuals seem to be most successful in inflicting their insidious poison and pain upon mostly unsuspecting empathetic individuals. Empaths seem to be the most vulnerable. Empathetic individuals seem to absorb, and are affected by other people's energy more. There is much research to support, that the mind and body work together. Empathetic and care-taking type individuals can become literally physically ill, if they are not mindful of their own compulsion to help others and not think of themselves.

Narcissists are magnetically drawn to empaths and vice-versa. It is an invisible magnetic energy that can be highly seductive and this magnetism is highly toxic and destructive. Self-care is important to empathetic and giving individuals, so they don't get sucked in by this negative energy.

Narcissism is on a spectrum. We all need some narcissism in order to feel good about ourselves, but on a scale of 1-10 we don't want to fall too much, at the low or high end of the spectrum. Both are toxic. We need to learn to identify the red flags of narcissistic abuse, because pathological narc abuse lies in the 6 -10 of the spectrum. How many chances have we given our narcissists...scratching our heads over their cruel behavior? We keep thinking they didn't mean to behave in such a way. The underhanded cutting digs, the out right insults, they embarrass us happily in front of others, with a smile on their face. We are side-swiped by this behavior, and mostly do not know how to respond. We don't know what to say or think. Don't they love us? They never seem to learn or care about how they are hurting us. Empaths must stop trying to figure narcissists out. The best thing to do is to identify the toxic behavior and walk away. They seldom change. 

There is research supporting the brain of a narcissist as not functioning in the same way as the rest of us when processing "normal" human emotions. Their brains do not light up in the portion of the brain where healthy human emotions reside. The hallmark of narcissistic abuse is diminished or zero to no capacity for empathy towards others. They are unable to walk in another person's shoes. They can't identify or relate to another person's experiences, and are unable to make deep or healthy emotional attachments with others.  This trait becomes very apparent, or should, after spending any length of time with these toxic individuals. They are consummate actors and pathological liars. Every time their mouth is moving, they are lying. They put on a good show. Sometimes it can be tough to smoke them out. Awareness is key. There are red flags, that are often missed, due to lack of knowledge.

Not all narcissists are sociopaths or psychopaths, but all sociopaths and psychopaths are narcissists. They both lack a conscience.

We are all made up of energy. Yes. The narcissist's energy, the rollercoaster ride of ups and downs can make their targets physically and emotionally ill on many levels in some form, over time. Some have suggested evil it's so dark. It's a negative, destructive energetic dynamic. They suck healthy energy from their targets in order to get their drug/narcissistic supply (attention, adulation...sex…) needs met, and it ends up taking it's toll on their targets. Empaths need to focus on their own self-care, learn to put themselves first, and leave destructive narcissists and toxic people behind.

Let's raise public awareness about narcissism and narcissistic abuse! It's rampant!

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